tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post1137642944504982505..comments2008-08-10T22:07:32.908-04:00Comments on The Only Constant is Change: New house, mixed feelingsVA Blondiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16397010100646304317noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post-87044319273901750992008-05-22T12:01:00.000-04:002008-05-22T12:01:00.000-04:00I'm slow in catching up on your journey, but this ...I'm slow in catching up on your journey, but this post really touched me. I SO know how you feel! There has been a lot of waiting in my journey, too - Canadian medical system is great, but things can take a long time - so I know how much it hurts to wait for something that you don't even know what it is, or when it will happen. It is a special kind of torture, I think. <BR/><BR/>I also really relate to not feeling like you fit in. Even though I obsessively read most of the DI blogs that I know of, there aren't that many, and sometimes I really long to hear from more people who are facing the same issues as I am. Even though I feel like I've been embraced in this community, there are times where I still feel kind of lonely. I agree that the IVF stuff can be kind of off-putting - not the people or their experiences, but I don't have a clue about meds, protocols, injections, side effects or anything. My supportive comments feel a bit hollow sometimes when I can't completely relate. <BR/><BR/>I also relate to the age thing. I am 34, too, and while I don't pay too much attention to the stats (I know they're true, but they are just stats and don't necessarily reflect what's true for me and my body), it's still hard to hear. I've wanted a baby for a long time, and it is incredibly hard to be still waiting while most of my friends are done having kids. I also fear that when I have kids, I'll be alienated from other new moms. Feels like I'll never fit in. <BR/><BR/>There are no easy answers for me. I think a lot of this is about grief for me - just another bunch of things I need to let go and grieve the loss of. And remembering that helps me to not feel like such a freak. After all, we give up so much in dealing with IF, and sometimes I think we don't give ourselves anywhere near enough credit for how hard it is. Especially when our losses are not understood or validated by the people around us in real life. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, I wish you a lot of peace right now, as you figure out where to go from here. It's a tough time, but it doesn't last forever. Hope the house is a good distraction in the meantime.annacyclopediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461037288546901657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post-42305188436651316192008-05-18T15:40:00.000-04:002008-05-18T15:40:00.000-04:00I could've written this post (except I don't even ...I could've written this post (except I don't even have walls to paint right now, because they're all ripped apart, I only have one giant dog, and two cats, and we have different problems re: trying to get PG). The only thing I keep thinking is that life hasn't necessarily taken me where I thought it would, but somehow I've still generally ended up where I needed to be. Hang in there.Queenie. . .https://www.blogger.com/profile/00666609807461763029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post-17974848456064338972008-05-16T05:56:00.000-04:002008-05-16T05:56:00.000-04:00It is fun to set up a new home.The nice thing abou...It is fun to set up a new home.<BR/><BR/>The nice thing about my dogs is they are usually a distraction from the IF thing. When people ask about children, I tell them our Danes are our babies. Their eyes get real big, and they usually have a lot of questions about our dogs. It is a good way to change to subject.VA Blondiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16397010100646304317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post-29705349719671433932008-05-15T08:38:00.000-04:002008-05-15T08:38:00.000-04:00I can totally relate to so much of what you said. ...I can totally relate to so much of what you said. I always joke about us being "puppy parents".Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14335137784267157167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7621102122133753400.post-51025639453617820592008-05-15T07:03:00.000-04:002008-05-15T07:03:00.000-04:00Sounds like you have some work to do on your house...Sounds like you have some work to do on your house: That's part of what makes it fun, in my opinion at least. We still haven't gotten the estimate for our fence (he was here 3 weeks ago-not impressed).<BR/>You have to post some pictures of it!<BR/><BR/>I know what you mean about feeling detached from all of the IF stuff. That's kind of how I feel...other people are moving forward, getting pregnant, and having babies. We're still just here.<BR/><BR/>It'll happen eventually. It's amazing how things never happen according to our plans. Hang in there *hugs*<BR/><BR/>I had wanted to have all my children by the time I was 28 (started at 23)...I'll be 26 in a few months and still nothing. I know it's not the same as in your 30s.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the dog obedience class (I'd love to see pictures of your danes)!Jessica Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06801308494220195403noreply@blogger.com